Yes or No

Is it yes or no? Will you or won’t you?

I have a friend (a guy, go figure) who says the answer to any problem is more sex.  On the surface of the comment I tend to agree.  Probably one of several reasons some of my friends say I should have been born a guy.  But is sex really the answer?

Not if it gets taken for granted.  Sex has a lot of emotions attached to it, even for men.  They would eat their gym shoes before admitting it, even to themselves.  Pheromones aside, physical contact is a very powerful thing.  And all the associated feelings are just as powerful.

Can you have sex with someone you’re not in love with? Yes.  Can you be in love with someone and never have sex? Yes.  Can you get so comfortable with a casual relationship that you just assume the other person will always be there when it’s convenient?  Yes.  Are any of these things healthy mile markers on the road to a happy relationship? No.

Who are you with? Why are you with them?  Is it a healthy relationship?  It’s very important to know the answers to these questions.  Sometimes it’s not as clear-cut as Yes or No…..


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